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Gay Men Life Focus
Gay Men and Looking Good

Gay Men and Looking Good

Mon, Apr 30, 2012

“Gay men only care what you look like”. “They just want to sleep with you—they don’t want to be your friend”.

Seeing the "Boy" in Your Gay Boyfriend

Seeing the "Boy" in Your Gay Boyfriend

Sat, Mar 31, 2012

You are dating a five-year-old.

The Confessing and Romping of Dermot Meagher

The Confessing and Romping of Dermot Meagher

Wed, Feb 29, 2012

Author, artist, and out gay retired judge Dermot Meagher has written a gay mystery novel full of Italian bears and ruddy Irishmen.

Why Gay Men Are Attracted to Men in Uniform

Why Gay Men Are Attracted to Men in Uniform

Sat, Dec 31, 2011

Sexy gay soldiers, or just attracted to men in uniform?

What Men Need to Know about Prostate Cancer

What Men Need to Know about Prostate Cancer

Wed, Nov 30, 2011

African American men have a 60% higher risk of developing prostate cancer than Caucasian men.

Shooting the Rapids with 12 Gay Men!

Shooting the Rapids with 12 Gay Men!

Wed, Nov 30, 2011

An eight-day white-water rafting, hiking, and camping all-gay Grand Canyon tour that will change your life.

The Golden Boys - Gay Men at Midlife

The Golden Boys - Gay Men at Midlife

Mon, Oct 31, 2011

Some advice about graceful aging for gay men in midlife.

Interracial Gay Dating

Interracial Gay Dating

Mon, Oct 31, 2011

More and more gay people are breaking free from the social norms as they engage in interracial gay dating.

Bullying….When Criticism Goes Too Far

Bullying….When Criticism Goes Too Far

Sat, Oct 01, 2011

Bullying is not unique to children. One can argue that bullying is now a part of our politics, accepted, encouraged... and detrimental.

This Gay Couple Likes It Rough

This Gay Couple Likes It Rough

Fri, Sep 30, 2011

David and Michael, an adventurous couple, share their story with us while on a gay men's tour of the Grand Canyon.

Guy Gawking In Gay Relationships

Guy Gawking In Gay Relationships

Wed, Aug 31, 2011

"Gawking" is all well and good if you're single and available, but what happens if you're already in a relationship with someone?

Foods That Boost Men’s Health

Foods That Boost Men’s Health

Sun, Jul 31, 2011

The appeal of good health is more than the view of your body.

Keys to a Healthy Relationship

Keys to a Healthy Relationship

Fri, Jul 01, 2011

Having a monogamous relationship is not a realistic goal for all couples, says Larry.

The Golden Boys -- Gay Men at Midlife

The Golden Boys -- Gay Men at Midlife

Thu, Jun 30, 2011

Midlife implies much just in its name: Mid, meaning equidistant between two points, and Life, the entire experience of being.

What Gay Men Want

What Gay Men Want

Tue, May 31, 2011

Gay men are people, too. Just like any other human being, gay men have needs and desires.

11 Dating Success Tips For Single Gay Men

11 Dating Success Tips For Single Gay Men

Sun, May 01, 2011

Due to growing up in a homophobic society, most gay men as teenagers had to keep their sexuality hidden for fear of social backlash and further damage to their already shaky self-image.

Gaysians Are Beautiful!

Gaysians Are Beautiful!

Sat, Apr 30, 2011

Advocate contributor Jimmy Nguyen takes a look at racial lookism and explains why he thinks the gay rainbow needs to embrace more colors.

No More "Cheating" for Gay Men in Relationship

No More "Cheating" for Gay Men in Relationship

Fri, Apr 01, 2011

How to Have an Open Relationship Without Hurt Feelings by Ken Howard

5 Clues to Why Gay Men Are Settling When It Comes to Love

5 Clues to Why Gay Men Are Settling When It Comes to Love

Thu, Mar 31, 2011

Greg spoke with a guy who claimed that finding love is too hard. Perhaps the problem is where and how the search is occurring.

Compulsive Sexual Behavior and Gay Men

Compulsive Sexual Behavior and Gay Men

Tue, Mar 01, 2011

When sex begins to interfere with your daily life, becomes a preoccupation to the point that you’re distracted from life tasks, or controls your behavior instead of you “being in the driver’s seat,” these are indicators that there may be an addiction at play.

March Love Madness

March Love Madness

Mon, Feb 28, 2011

I am married to a mama's boy. I must admit that my husband takes very good care of home and nothing is being neglected. What is a girl to do?

Relationship Success Tips for Coupled Gay Men

Relationship Success Tips for Coupled Gay Men

Tue, Feb 01, 2011

You found your Mr. Right! So now what?! Here are 8 tips for increasing the success of your relationship.

Happy Love Month!

Happy Love Month!

Mon, Jan 31, 2011

Jamal is moving from thinking about "What Gay Men Want" to answering the questions gay men ask. So here's your chance to "Ask Jamal."

Is Young Sex More Interesting than Commitment?

Is Young Sex More Interesting than Commitment?

Wed, Dec 01, 2010

So previously I talked about “All the good ones are miserably taken”. This month a subject was thrown my way and at first I thought it would be easy to write about. But, now I can see this is not at all as easy as I thought. Is Young Sex More Interesting than Commitment?

Top 10 Signs to Discover If He's the Right One

Top 10 Signs to Discover If He's the Right One

Wed, Nov 24, 2010

Assuming YOU ARE the right one, the next question is whether there really are ways for you to know if HE IS the right one.

All The Good Ones Are Miserably Taken

All The Good Ones Are Miserably Taken

Mon, Nov 01, 2010

Last month I bitched -- I mean, talked -- about being left alone in our thirties, and if you are here, you are back to see what I meant when I was saying all the good ones are miserably taken. Now just because you are reading this, that does not guarantee that you are one of the good ones miserably taken.

OK, Gay Lovers, Stop Fighting!

OK, Gay Lovers, Stop Fighting!

Wed, Oct 20, 2010

I cannot take any more. We have been together for six years and even did a commitment ceremony last year to help us stop fighting, but for the last two years or so, it is one big long fight.

WTF is so bad about being in our thirties

WTF is so bad about being in our thirties

Fri, Oct 01, 2010

This blog is a little different from what I usually like to bitch (talk) about. As I talk with others in my age bracket (I’ll be 33 soon), I find I’m not alone. There is a form of age discrimination in the community that leaves us 30-somethings high and dry and alone, and it's pissing me off.

The Face of You

The Face of You

Sat, Sep 25, 2010

"For Gay Men Only" was one of the most popular sections of 10,000 Couples' first year. No doubt this "Halloween" observation will create its own list in the new year.

I'm Not Gay.. Just Homosexual

I'm Not Gay.. Just Homosexual

Wed, Sep 01, 2010

I never like to view myself as an "us versus them" kind of guy. However, when I look at my heterosexual counterparts, I see some things that are missing from me.

Monogamy:  What does it really mean?

Monogamy: What does it really mean?

Tue, Aug 31, 2010

Marriage is a contract between you and your partner. If you have both agreed to monogamy, then any violation is considered a breach of that contract.

Looking For Love In All The Wrong Places

Looking For Love In All The Wrong Places

Sun, Aug 01, 2010

People will only see you for what you portray to them. Thinking your ass or your penis is your best asset and having it as your main picture to your profile is all a person will see you for.

Romancing Your Partner

Romancing Your Partner

Sat, Jul 24, 2010

Romancing your partner can be as simple as a pizza and a walk, or as complicated as finding ten dancing girls for an orgy....X

Living with an HIV-Positive Partner

Living with an HIV-Positive Partner

Wed, Jun 23, 2010

Living with an HIV-Positive partner can be challenging if you let your fear run your relationship.

Be the Best Mate You Can

Be the Best Mate You Can

Tue, May 25, 2010

Sometimes our partners drive us to near insanity. You feel as though this is the very last thing you can take before you have to be committed, either for being certifiable or for murder.

The Jealousy Issue

The Jealousy Issue

Tue, Apr 27, 2010

Not a Cheater

For Gay Men Only: 5 Clues to Why You Are Settling When it Comes to Love

For Gay Men Only: 5 Clues to Why You Are Settling When it Comes to Love

Sat, Feb 27, 2010

What's going on inside you to attract men who are not up to your standards?

How's Your Integrity When it Comes to Good Love?

How's Your Integrity When it Comes to Good Love?

Mon, Jan 18, 2010

I have a feeling that you're one of the most loving and giving guys someone could ever meet.

Gays Anatomy

Gays Anatomy

Fri, Jan 01, 2010

Here are 10 things gay couples can teach other couples about sexual monogamy versus non-monogamy

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