Technically, it’s true: Polar opposites do indeed attract. But do they “stick” past their initially being drawn to each other? I decided to write this article because this subject seems to be popping up frequently among friends and loved ones within the past few weeks.

I have been guilty of it. Maybe we all have. The good girl is attracted to the bad girl or boi. And vice versa. It’s exciting and satisfying at first. Then reality kicks in. The illusions fade away and you are left with a person who is nothing like you, yet you’re dumbfounded as to why the relationship didn’t work out long-term. Commonality of emotional make-up, spirit, life goals, and general personality are better indications of a relationship lasting than are short-lived physical passion or the adrenaline you get from a partner you feel may have something you lack. Once you’re with that person, you’re still lacking whatever it is they possess that you don’t in the end. You’re only living vicariously through them, and basically, it still doesn’t affect who you are as a person. It doesn’t change you or your life. But incompatibility may start to creep in, and before you know it, you’re no longer feeling fulfilled by that person or your relationship.

By Katrina Hobbs, Ph.D.

Katrina Hobbs, PhD in Holistic Sciences, known as "the lesbian love doctor," is a certified alternative therapy practitioner and best-selling author of 12 books on lesbian relationships, romance, and erotica. She is the founder and owner of The Girl Spot, her online magazine, which has been called "Like Cosmopolitan magazine for lesbians!"  She is also producing a series of books on various topics ranging from lesbian relationship advice to spirituality and health.

To view excerpts from her books or to purchase them, please visit her website: www.thelesbianbadgirl.webs.com and The Girl Spot magazine at http://www.thegirlspot.presspublisher.us and see what’s new!