We’ve all been in a situation in which we are being compared to someone else. It’s normal in our day-to-day lives, but when it comes to relationships, it causes some discomfort to be compared to our partner’s ex.

The comparison isn’t always the cause of discomfort, though; sometimes it is the unspoken indication that your girlfriend believes you will do exactly what her ex did to her. This situation occurs often and is by far one of the most difficult situations to start a conversation about because the one doing the comparison is often unaware that she is doing so and the one being compared to the ex is already on the defensive because of the comparison.

By Amanda Chaput

I am a 28-year-old lesbian who is very interested in writing about anything relating to the GLBT society. I am currently taking online courses to obtain my Bachelors of Business Administration degree. I am a very passionate writer, and enjoy writing just about anything. I write poetry, articles and such.