Mother’s Day is a beautiful holiday with all its flowers and sparkly cards.  Our mothers tell us that we "shouldn’t have,” all the while radiating in the fact that we did.  The next day, they brag to their friends about the fancy meal we bought for them. 

We know they deserve even more -- more time, more extravagance, more of everything -- for it is they who gave us everything.  We smile to ourselves as we remember the joy on Mom’s face as she opened her gifts. 

Of course, not all moms are June Cleavers.  June Cleaver of “Leave It to Beaver” fame might be the least likely description of our mother.  Perhaps we feel "Bitch" is more apt.  Perhaps Mother’s Day is a time of torture for us as we are forced to spend time with the woman at the root of all our neuroses, relationship issues, and failures.  We have brought our dysfunctional relationship with Mom into our romantic relationship, and life ain’t easy.

If Mom let us down our entire life, never showing up for our musical performances or sports victories, whether too drunk or too busy, we may bring an expectation of disappointment into our romantic relationship.  If our mate cannot make it to our office Christmas party, we may project onto her years of disappointment brought on by a negligent parent.

By Kellie Lee Owen

Kellie  is a writer, an Energy Therapist and a work in progress.  She inspires her clients and readers to get really clear about their thinking.  "Our thinking creates our reality.  Think well, live well. "